Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is a therapy modality for the treatment of core relationship problems which cause couples to feel disconnected, misunderstood, and in chronic conflict.
Over the past 25 years, EFT has been rigorously researched with the highest quality of outcome studies. Couples included in the studies showed a 75% recovery rate from marital distress at the completion of therapy, and a 90% rate of significant improvement. This compares with a 35% recovery rate for couples receiving behavioral interventions.
EFT is applicable to many different kinds of clients. It is used for a wide variety of couples and social classes, gay couples, older couples, couples with children with chronic health issues, couples suffering from chronic illness or from depression and anxiety disorders such as post-traumatic stress disorder.
My work with couples focuses on the underlying emotional dynamics of couples’ interactions with one another. When working with a couple I draw attention to the importance of the emotions happening below the surface of the behavior and communication. The emotions of the relationship determine the patterns of interaction within the relationship. I focus on creating change by changing the emotional connection of couples, rather than on teaching different ways to communicate and negotiate conflict. When partners feel a strong sense of connection anything is possible.
Many times in a struggling relationship one partner will carry all of the emotion while the other partner is detached from emotion. In order for the relationship to get better we will need to create a better balance of emotion between partners. When compared with other types of couples therapy, EFT is uniquely effective at creating this kind of real and lasting change. As we work through the process of therapy, couples naturally begin to experience a new way to communicate across all areas of the relationship, not just the specific areas of conflict.